By far, the hardest part of this adjustment period has been trying to make certain that everyone gets enough attention. I have cried 95% or more of my postpartum tears worrying about our new family dynamic and worrying about the new big brother in our family. I just want everyone to feel loved, and no one to feel shafted. I imagine that it's so jarring to one minute be at the center of our universe, and then all the sudden have to share the spotlight. Eli has been more weepy, more demanding and possibly testing us more, too. I say possibly testing us more because he seems to have hit a new stage when he turned three, even before Keira came into the picture. He was an amazingly compliant, helpful and well-behaved two year old. So, it seems that he's decided to be a more rebellious three instead. But, it's very difficult to untangle exactly why he's behaving in a certain way. Fortunately, we are adjusting more and more each day, but Eli and his new place in the family pulls at my heart strings, even when he seems just fine.
It seems that Kodi is suffering from some jealousy issues as well. She follows us around the house, meowing a wounded meow, she tries to sleep in all the places Keira sleeps, and just like Ani did after Eli was born, she seems like she's putting on some weight. Here's a picture of Kodi trying to absorb some love. The unusual thing about this picture, is that Kodi usually has to be convinced to climb on our laps, but in this picture, and now more increasingly, she doesn't waste any time.
The amazingly good news about our growing family is that Eli continues to be a wonderful big brother. He wants to hold her, love her, sing to her, lay next to her and generally be near her at all times. Thank God!
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